Nearly 5 years ago, my husband’s precious maternal grandmother passed away. This special woman had an amazing sense of humor and a flair for life. Without saying a word, she could make me laugh with just a look. Several years before her death, she visited a local funeral home in order to plan her funeral services. When she passed away, the family didn’t have to deal with the stress of organizing her farewell services. They could relax, grieve, and concentrate on the wonderful memories they shared with her. I've grown to appreciate this. On this blog, you will discover the steps required to plan your own funeral.
If your loved one has opted for cremation and you and the surviving family members find yourselves evaluating what to do with the cremated remains, scattering them in a special area is often a popular choice. Thinking of a place with significance to your loved one — sometimes, those who preplan their funerals will even specify this location in advance — might be atop your list of priorities, but it's also worthwhile to consider another location. Many cemeteries have gardens that people can scatter cremated remains into. Even if this idea doesn't immediately appeal to you, here are some reasons that it's a good choice.
You'll Always Have Access
For some people, the idea of scattering their loved one's cremated remains in their backyard — perhaps in a garden or under a tree — is appealing. With this approach, you'll be able to go out to the area for quiet reflection as you remember the life of your loved one. However, in many cases, you won't own that property for the entirety of your life. If and when you move, you'll no longer be able to visit the area that you scattered the cremated remains. When you do so over a cemetery garden, you'll always be able to visit the space.
It's A Quiet Area
There are many possible places to scatter your loved one's cremated remains, including parks, lakes, and other such areas. The concern with these spots, however, is that you may visit to have a scattering ceremony, only to find that there are many people enjoying the area — and perhaps being loud and boisterous. This can be an issue if you manage to scatter the remains and then return to visit the area later, too. When you opt for the cemetery location, you can be confident that the area will always be quiet and those who may also be visiting will be respectful.
There's A Permanency To This Location
It's highly uncommon for cemeteries to be redeveloped, which means that you can visit this spot to honor the memory of your loved one indefinitely. If you opt to scatter the remains in a different location, changes may be coming. For example, perhaps you scatter the remains in a park where you and your loved one once enjoyed walks, but that park gets bulldozed in favor of condos sometime in the future. This will be an upsetting situation for you, but one that you'd avoid if you opt for the cemetery garden.