Nearly 5 years ago, my husband’s precious maternal grandmother passed away. This special woman had an amazing sense of humor and a flair for life. Without saying a word, she could make me laugh with just a look. Several years before her death, she visited a local funeral home in order to plan her funeral services. When she passed away, the family didn’t have to deal with the stress of organizing her farewell services. They could relax, grieve, and concentrate on the wonderful memories they shared with her. I've grown to appreciate this. On this blog, you will discover the steps required to plan your own funeral.
Going to a memorial service for a loved one is difficult, but the funeral can be even more complicated if you are tempted to lie at the service. Attempting to lie to anyone during a funeral is in very bad taste and should be avoided if at all possible. Whatever you do, try to avoid telling these four lies at the funeral.
Stop! Don't Make Up False Things to Comfort the Bereaved
After waiting your turn to comfort the bereaved, you may find yourself searching for something to say. It's best to prepare something so you aren't left in such a position. However, if you find yourself standing in silence, don't make up false things just to offer words of comfort to the grieving family. Instead, express your condolences and leave it up to the mourners to say more about the death if they wish to do so.
Stop! Don't Say That You Knew Someone If You Didn't
Most people have been in the awkward position of not sure whether they should attend a funeral for one reason or another. If you are invited to attend the funeral of someone you didn't know or feel compelled to do so to comfort a loved one, don't be tempted to state that you knew the person or even met the individual. If asked, try to change the subject or simply state that you are there to offer support to your loved one who is bereaved.
Stop! Don't Promise You Will Do Something You Know You Won't
When you see a crying loved one at a funeral, you may wish you could say anything that would provide the smallest bit of solace. In such a situation, you may want to promise the world and make promises about what you can do to help. Tread carefully when making promises. Never promise that you will do things or be there for a grieving person if you don't intend to follow through.
Stop! Don't Say You're Okay if You're Not
If you are bereaved and are struggling to cope with the loss, don't try to put on a brave face. Be honest with your loved ones and don't say that you're okay if you aren't. It's better to ask for help if you need it than suffer needlessly in silence.
Finally, it's best to stick to telling the truth at a funeral as long as you can do so tactfully and with respect to the deceased person's family. When in doubt about how you should react to a confusing situation that presents itself at the memorial service, keep these things in mind.