Nearly 5 years ago, my husband’s precious maternal grandmother passed away. This special woman had an amazing sense of humor and a flair for life. Without saying a word, she could make me laugh with just a look. Several years before her death, she visited a local funeral home in order to plan her funeral services. When she passed away, the family didn’t have to deal with the stress of organizing her farewell services. They could relax, grieve, and concentrate on the wonderful memories they shared with her. I've grown to appreciate this. On this blog, you will discover the steps required to plan your own funeral.
Not every child is ready to go to a cremation service, but some kids will find that going to the cremation service of a lost loved one can be an important part of ultimately healing from the loss. Use your best judgment on whether your child is ready for this adult event. When going to a cremation service, there are some things that kids need to know in order to get the most out of the event and show respect to others.
Emphasize That the Cremation Service Is a Sad Event for Others
Although a young child may not quite grasp the concept of death accurately, it's important the child know that this is a sad event for people who are attending the cremation service. After all, it's important that the child not treat it as a gathering where they can make noise and play with others. This may be a good time to review with your child the importance of being on one's best behavior.
Let Your Child Know That Sympathy Cards Will Be Welcome
When your child learns about the cremation service and that some friends or family members may be mourning, your little one's first inclination may be to make a drawing or card to help the person feel better. Encourage this. Although sympathy gifts are sometimes viewed as something for traditional funeral services, they can be appreciated at a cremation service, too.
Explain That It's Important to Be Quiet During Certain Times of a Cremation Service
No matter how open other guests may be to your child's presence at the cremation service, he or she needs to observe certain times of silence during the cremation service. Of course, the child can't determine that, but you can prepare for your child for you to whisper when it's time to be quiet. You can make it into a kind of game as long as your child takes it seriously when the time comes to be quiet.
Finally, keep in mind that you know your child better than anyone else. Trust your instincts on what is right for your little one. If you think that cremation service is getting to be too much for your child, it's okay to leave. Simply express your regrets then or later on to the family and friends of the deceased person. When it comes to children, all mourners understand that kids' needs and well-being come first.
For more information, contact companies like Union Funeral Home-Lytwyn & Lytwyn.